A Souldrama ® Workshop on the Original Moreno Stage
"NO SHAME ON YOU!"
January 12 - 15, 2024
Using the techniques of group psychotherapy, action methods, psychodrama and Souldrama, you will learn how to to relase old shame and set yourself free.
No Shame On You!!
When we have deep shame inside, instead of being true to ourselves, we try to have others like us, which eventually makes us tired, depressed, and anxious because we’ve become disconnected from our true essence.
Having shame isn’t the issue; the real issue is resisting or trying to cover it up. The more we try to keep shame hidden, the more we live in limitation and self-protection and experience stress in our system.
We may experience self-hate and a constant critical inner voice. Those parts of us don’t want to be suppressed, forced to change, or told they’re bad or wrong; they want to be seen, heard, and embraced in unconditional acceptance and love.
Many of us try to hide our shame because we don’t want to feel that deep pain. And if people look at us in a weird way, criticize, judge, or leave us, then what? We’ll be all alone. Well, that may not be true, but that’s what we may have experienced in the past, and we fear it happening again.
We may want a new relationship and to be intimate, but a part of us may push it away because we’re afraid that they’ll see that we’re not perfect human beings and leave. Then that would re-affirm the false belief that we’re unlovable or unworthy.
We may want to share our creativity and/or express ourselves in some way, but we’ve been shamed for doing so in the past, so we stop ourselves because we don’t want to be hurt again.
We may want to do inner healing, but if we do, we’ll get in touch with the parts of us that are hurting, and feeling those feelings may seem overwhelming because we’re used to suppressing them and they’re attached to past pains or traumas.
Some of us were shamed for making a mistake in the past, even though making mistakes is part of learning. When we fear making mistakes, we tend to self-sabotage or procrastinate.
Sometimes we use food, drugs, alcohol, or being busy to try to numb and get away from our painful and shameful feelings.
Sometimes shame manifests as chronic fatigue, self-criticism, depression, low self-esteem or painful sensations in our body. We may feel self-conscious, anxious, and insecure and have a hard time speaking up or receiving gifts and compliments because we don’t feel worthy of them.
So what is shame really? It makes us believe that we’re bad, wrong, unlovable, or unworthy. Those ideas stem from not meeting other people’s expectations of how we should be, or from experiences that made us feel embarrassed.
Because we didn’t know how to cope with or process our feelings at the time, we developed a negative lens through which we now see ourselves and others that dictates what we do and don’t do.
If we were shamed for or felt shame about something as children, we usually try to find a way to compensate for it as adults.
This is what unresolved shame does. It creates a shame-based identity. It runs our subconscious programming, disconnects us from our authenticity, and makes us believe that there’s something wrong with us—that we’re unworthy, unlovable, and not good enough.
We don’t stop loving the ones who shamed and hurt us; we stop loving ourselves, and we start treating ourselves in the same ways they did. The external rejection becomes our own internal rejection.
Instead of fixing ourselves to cover up how we’re truly feeling, we need to take the time to understand why we’re feeling, thinking, and acting how we do, which may be coming from past traumas, hurts, and wounds.
If we keep our shame hidden, we may feel stuck inside, which makes us feel stuck in our lives because our minds and bodies continue to react automatically from the past painful and unresolved experiences.
How much of this is true for you?
You’re unable to find inner peace. Deep inside you don’t feel good enough, like there’s something’s wrong with you.
You need to be loved and approved of by others in order to love and approve of yourself.
You see yourself and others through the lens of past painful experiences.
You’re afraid to try new things, share your creativity, share how you’re truly feeling, or ask for what you want and need because you don’t feel worthy, or you’re afraid of feeling embarrassed or shamed.
You mold yourself to try to fit in with what everyone else is doing instead of following what has true, heartfelt meaning for you.
You often feel anxious and afraid, and you have a constant critical inner voice.
You try to achieve as a way to prove that you’re worthy, valuable, and lovable.
Since being shamed makes us want to hide those parts of ourselves that were unacceptable, healing happens when we bring those parts into the light of awareness and embrace them with unconditional acceptance and love.
Healing starts to happen when we recognize and break free from the trance we’re living in. We do this by going to the root cause(s) of the shame and resolving that unresolved pain with compassion, love, and a new understanding.
Healing starts to happen when we learn how to be more compassionate with ourselves and instead of saying “Why can’t I just…?” We ask ourselves “What keeps me from…? How can I help that part feel seen, heard, understood, and loved?”
Healing starts to happen when we begin to uncover, discover, and embrace our natural qualities, talents, and abilities and allow those parts of us to be felt and seen.
Healing starts to happen when we learn how to speak to and treat ourselves in more kind, compassionate, and loving ways, and also believe that we’re worth it.
Healing starts in a group for it is in a group we are wounded and in a group we heal!
Please remember that healing is a process. Our system is conditioned to be a certain way, and our minds and bodies love to stay with what’s familiar. Working with our tender, hurting parts with love and compassion can help us break out of the trance of past hurt and wounds and experience what true love and inner peace really means.
So, instead of trying to get rid of the shame or cover it up, embrace the parts you’re ashamed of with unconditional acceptance and love. Let yourself and your inner child know that you are beautiful, valuable, and lovable as you are, even with your wounds and scars. Join our Soudrama workshop and remove those blocks that are keeping you stuck in shame.
It is in a group we are wounded and in a group we heal
Workshop Hours and Cost
Jan 12 6-9 PM
Jan 13 9-12 : 4-6 PM
Jan 14 9-12 : 4-6 PM
Jan 15 9-12
Registration fee due by November 15, 2023!
18 Training Hours ( As approved by the American Society of Group Psychotherpay, Sociometry and Psychodrama & the International Institute of Souldrama)
$425 for the training
There are many places in the area (New Paltz and Highland NY) to stay, if you do not chose to stay in the theater.
While the theatre can hold up to 68 people per fire code, our overnight accommodations in the theatre offer10twin-sized beds (two single rooms, the rest shared.)
There might be other options to add beds in our parlor room off of the kitchen if needed. There is also the option of having guests stay in our little cabin which has a queen bed and its own bathroom (and a mini-fridge, coffee maker...) Shared rooms are $50/night; single rooms (only two available) are $65/night. (Sometimes rooms with multiple beds end up being offered as singles, depending upon program registration.)
The little cabin is $85/night for one person. If two people are sharing the space, there's an extra $40/night fee for the second person. We have a new full-bathroom in the theatre building, so we now have 2 full and one half bathrooms, plus the outdoor shower (for venturous sorts) and, possibly, the full bathroom in the little cabin.
From the North or South: NYS Thruway (Rt 87) to Exit 18 New Paltz. At light make right onto Rt 299 East. Follow for approximately 3 miles then make right onto Kisor Rd. Take first left into Boughton Place.
From the East: Mid Hudson Bridge to Rt 9W North. Take left onto Rt 299 West (towards New Paltz). Follow for about 2-3 miles, then make left onto Kisor Road. Take first left into Boughton Place.
From the West: Rt 299 through the village of New Paltz past the Thruway entrance. Follow directions from the North.
From the West: Rt 299 through the village of New Paltz past the Thruway entrance. Follow directions from the North.
ABOUT THE STAGE
“A true therapeutic procedure cannot have less an objective than the whole of mankind.”
– opening words of Who Shall Survive? by J. L. Moreno, MD (1934)
Not far off Route 299 between New Paltz and Highland, on Kisor Road, there stands a cluster of old buildings set amidst gardens that include a labyrinth laid out for meditation. Called Boughton Place, this site houses a not-for-profit organization whose avowed mission is to serve as a “learning center that provides education, community and practical support for individuals and groups interested in developing transformative skills for sustainable living,” and “a community-creating space used for meetings, gatherings, performances, celebrations, study circles and training sessions that promote its mission.”
If that all sounds a little vague, airy-fairy and New Agey, homing in on the true historic gem preserved in this bucolic setting should provide a more concrete picture of what makes this organization unique. As of 1987, Boughton Place became the resting place for an iconic structure closely associated with the concept and practice of group psychotherapy – a term coined by Jacob Levy Moreno, the Austrian-American founder of psychodrama: the original circular stage built for the Moreno Institute in Beacon in 1936.
Breaking from the psychoanalytic model, Moreno took the approach that “We are all therapeutic agents of one another.” In 1912 in Vienna, Moreno publicly told Sigmund Freud, “I start where you leave off…. You analyze [people] and tear them apart. I let them act out their conflicting roles and help them to put the parts back together again.” It was around that time that Moreno conducted the first-ever formal self-help psychotherapy group, for Viennese prostitutes.
Moreno moved to New York City in 1925, having already established such international repute as a social scientist that later legends including Fritz Perls, Eric Berne, Virginia Satir and even Candid Camera’s Allen Funt came to study with him. In 1936, he bought a building in Beacon that had formerly been a summer cottage for the Vanderbilt family and turned it into “a psychiatric hospital for people who had tried everything else,” says Rebecca Walters, MS, LMHC, LCAT, TEP, co-director of the Hudson Valley Psychodrama Institute and recently retired director of Child and Adolescent Psychodrama Services at Four Winds Psychiatric Hospital in Katonah. Moreno had a beautiful round wooden stage specially constructed for his psychodrama sessions, “inspired by Shakespeare’s Globe Theatre” and “built like a wedding cake,” with a semicircular gallery suspended above.
According to Walters, only the bottommost level of the original Moreno Psychodrama Stage did not survive the move from Beacon to Highland. After the eminent psychotherapist’s death in 1974, his widow Zerka Moreno – now 96 and still active – continued teaching at the Moreno Institute for several years, but was financially unable to sustain the building as a hospital. In 1986, “The Beacon Fire Department wanted to burn down the building for practice,” Walters relates. “To save the stage, they had to dismantle it. They cut it in half and took it out through the windows of the Institute.” The 1,000-square-foot theatre space at Boughton Place – which belonged to Clare Danielsson, a certified psychodramatist who was one of J. L. Moreno’s last students – proved just a bit too small to accommodate the widest base level of the stage, but the rest of it was reassembled where it now stands.
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